Growing around grief (Tonkin 1996)
A bereaved pupil may find this model helpful, either if they feel overwhelmed by their grief or if they begin to feel guilty for getting on with their own life or having fun.
If a recently bereaved person were to draw a circle to show their life, they may well shade the entire circle to show how much of their life is consumed by grief. As time passes, they will begin to engage in everyday activities, have fun and do new things which will help them to grow a life around their grief. The grief has not diminished but has become a part of the bereaved pupil’s new life.