Key Points Support for bereaved pupils in school

  • Offer simple choices for a bereaved pupil to give them a little control in a world which feels very confusing and muddled.
  • A time-out option can help a bereaved pupil feel more secure in case their grief overwhelms them in school.
  • Support for a bereaved pupil’s friends will help to reduce issues with their friendship group.
  • Explanations should be clear and honest, using age-appropriate language which avoids the confusion of euphemisms.
  • Acknowledge the person who died and offer opportunities for the bereaved pupil to share or collect memories.
  • Be mindful of significant dates and curriculum areas which may cause upset.
  • Offer information and signpost the family/carers to support if necessary.
  • Check in with the pupil regularly and check to make sure that they are managing their grief.

Reflective practice Role of the school

Using the adapted SWOT analysis tool, consider the impact of:

  • Receiving news that a pupil in your care has been bereaved of a parent.
  • Hearing that a friend and teaching colleague at your school died suddenly over the weekend.